Unleash Your Authentic Self: A Midlife Transformation Blueprint

Feb 23, 2025 | The GreatBIG Life Cycle

Hey friend! We’re diving deep into the final phase of the Great Big Life Cycle: Transformation. If you’ve been following along, we’ve journeyed through Transition, Edit, Exploration, and Implementation. Now, we’re ready to talk about the real magic – the internal shift that makes all the difference.

Let’s be real, transformation isn’t just about changing your external circumstances. It’s not about a new haircut or a fancy car (though those can be fun!). It’s about a mindset shift, a deep dive into who you really are and embracing her with open arms. Think of it as shedding old layers and stepping into the radiant, powerful woman you were always meant to be.

I remember my own journey in my 20s and 30s. I was the ultimate “go-getter,” juggling businesses, contracts, and a million different projects. Though I was driven by a deep desire to serve and help others, I was also running on a hamster wheel. It felt like my value was tied to all the doing. Sound familiar?

Then, life threw me a curveball. I found myself needing a steady job and landed at a mental health tech startup – a total surprise! What was supposed to be a short-term gig turned into something much more. I realized it wasn’t about what I was doing, but who I was being. My value wasn’t in the hustle, but in my innate ability to connect with and empower others.

This realization was a game-changer. It was less about chasing external validation and more about embracing my authentic self. It was about leaning into the woman I already was, the woman who was ready to shine.

So, how do you make this transformation happen? How do you ditch the old narratives and step into your highest potential? I’ve got you covered with a practical blueprint. Grab your coffee (or wine!), and let’s dive in.

The Transformation Blueprint: Your Guide to Inner Growth

This isn’t just about wishing for change; it’s about making it happen. It requires intention, self-reflection, and a whole lot of self-compassion. Ready?

1. What Energizes You Now?

Forget what worked in your 20s or 30s. What truly lights you up today? What makes time disappear? Take a “joy inventory.” What activities make you think, “I can’t believe I get to do this!”? And let’s not forget your natural talents. What do people always ask you for help with? These are your gifts, and they should bring you joy. If they don’t, it’s time to re-evaluate.

• What activities make you lose track of time?
• When do you feel truly alive and engaged?
• What are your natural talents?

2. Identify Thought Patterns Holding You Back

This is where the real work begins. Transformation is an inside job. You can change your clothes, your job, even your address, but if your thoughts remain the same, you’ll keep hitting the same roadblocks. It’s time to get honest about the stories you tell yourself.

So many of us, especially women in midlife, struggle with confidence. We have a wealth of experience, yet we doubt ourselves. Why? It’s time to dig deep and challenge those limiting beliefs. Where did they come from? Are they even true?

• What are the recurring narratives in your mind?
• Are they based on fear or limiting beliefs?
• Whose voice is that in your head? Is it even yours?

3. Create an Action Plan for Change

Now, let’s get tactical. How do you shift those thought patterns and create lasting change? Start with daily rituals. Even small acts of self-care can make a big difference. Maybe it’s a few minutes of quiet meditation, a walk in nature, or simply putting your phone away for an hour. Find what works for you and make it a non-negotiable part of your day.

Change doesn’t happen overnight. Be patient with yourself and add new practices gradually. Journaling is a powerful tool for exploring your thoughts and feelings. Try this: identify a negative or unhelpful thought, then brainstorm alternative, more empowering thoughts. Practice revisiting these new thought patterns daily.

• What small steps can you take each day to nurture your mind and body?
• How can you incorporate journaling or other reflective practices into your routine?
• What new thought patterns do you want to cultivate?

4. Plan the Work, Work the Plan

Consistency is key. Create a weekly ritual to check in with yourself. Reflect on your progress, identify what’s working, and adjust your course as needed. Pay attention to your energy levels. What activities energize you? What drains you? Prioritize the former and minimize the latter.

Set weekly intentions, especially related to your internal transformation. Instead of vague goals like “be a better mom,” get specific. What does a “better mom” think? Visualize it, feel it, and set an intention to embody that mindset.

Finally, choose one major focus area at a time. Don’t try to do everything at once. Give yourself the time and space to truly focus on one area of growth before moving on to the next.

• How will you track your progress and celebrate your wins?
• What weekly rituals will help you stay on track?
• What is your primary focus for the next few months?

Transformation is a journey, not a destination. It’s about embracing your authentic self, shedding old stories, and stepping into the fullness of who you are. And remember, you’re not changing who you are; you’re becoming more of who you’ve always been.

Want a deeper dive into this blueprint? Grab my free PDF here! And don’t to share with your friends for more tips on living your best midlife!

Embracing Change in Midlife: Why Implementation is Your Secret Weapon

Feb 23, 2025 | The GreatBIG Life Cycle

Hey there! Let’s have a heart-to-heart about something that’s probably been keeping you up at night – making real, lasting changes in midlife. You know what I’m talking about – that feeling when you know you need to shake things up, but the “how” feels about as clear as mud.

When Your Body Throws You a Curveball (Hello, Perimenopause!)

Can I share something personal with you? There I was, cruising through my early 40s with my perfectly planned morning routine – devotions, dog walks, breakfast, the whole nine yards. Then perimenopause crashed the party (uninvited, I might add!). Suddenly, my well-oiled machine of a morning routine came to a screeching halt.

Brain fog? Check. Energy levels doing the limbo? You bet. Night sweats? Oh honey, don’t even get me started! I was so confused that I literally marched into my doctor’s office convinced I had early-onset Alzheimer’s. (Spoiler alert: I didn’t – it was just our friend perimenopause saying hello!)

The Art of Implementation: Your Roadmap to Change

Here’s the thing about implementation – it’s where the rubber meets the road. It’s not about making grand gestures or completely overhauling your life overnight (because let’s be real, who has time for that?). Instead, it’s about taking small, intentional steps that add up to big changes.

Why Small Steps Matter More Than Giant Leaps

Let me let you in on a little secret: the most powerful changes often start with the smallest steps. Here’s how to make implementation work for you:

1. Put yourself on the calendar (yes, literally!)
2. Start with one small change at a time
3. Honor your body’s natural rhythms (like doing creative work when your brain is freshest)
4. Be patient with yourself as you build new habits

The Truth About Resistance (It’s Not What You Think)

Want to know the biggest plot twist in this whole implementation story? Your biggest opposition isn’t your family, your job, or your circumstances – it’s you. I know, I know, that’s not what you wanted to hear! But here’s the empowering part: once you recognize this, you can work with yourself instead of against yourself.

Your Permission Slip to Change

Consider this your official permission slip to make changes at your own pace. You don’t need to move to another state, buy a new car, or dramatically chop off all your hair (though if you want to, go for it, sister!). What matters is taking consistent, intentional steps toward the life you want to create.

Ready to Take Action?

Ask yourself:

• What one small change could you implement this week?
• How can you put yourself on your own calendar?
• What time of day are you at your best for different types of tasks?

Your Next Step

Remember, implementation isn’t about perfection – it’s about progress. Start small, be consistent, and most importantly, be gentle with yourself as you navigate this change.

I’d love to hear from you! Drop a comment below and share one small change you’re implementing in your life right now. Remember, you’re not alone on this journey – we’re all figuring it out together, one step at a time.

Ready to dive deeper into your midlife transformation journey? Stay tuned for our next post about the final phase of the Great Big Life Cycle – Transformation. Trust me, you won’t want to miss it!

Embracing the Art of Exploration in Midlife: Your Permission Slip to Try Something New

Feb 23, 2025 | The GreatBIG Life Cycle

Hey there, my friend! Let’s have a heart-to-heart about something that’s been on my mind lately – the beautiful art of exploration in midlife. You know that feeling when you’re standing at the edge of something new, heart fluttering with both excitement and nervousness? That’s exactly where we’re headed today.

The Permission Slip You’ve Been Waiting For

Remember when we were kids, and we needed a permission slip to go on adventures? Well, consider this your official midlife permission slip to explore, experiment, and yes – even fail gloriously! As someone who’s navigated these waters (and sometimes felt like I was swimming upstream), I can tell you that exploration isn’t just fun – it’s essential for our growth.

Why Exploration Matters Now More Than Ever

Let me share a little story that might resonate with you. Recently, I witnessed a beautiful moment of transformation when a friend of mine – let’s call her Denise – decided to try roller skating at 53. Not just any skating, mind you, but full-on, bought-her-own-skates commitment. Was she wobbly at first? Absolutely. Did it matter? Not one bit. Because what she gained wasn’t just a new hobby – it was a renewed sense of possibility.

The Art of Living the Question

You know what my therapist once shared with me? A beautiful quote from Rainer Maria Rilke: “Live the question.” Not rush to answer it, not solve it immediately, but live it. How often do we deny ourselves experiences because we’re too busy trying to know the outcome?

Your Exploration Toolkit

Here’s what I want you to consider (and yes, I’m speaking from experience here):

1. Get Cozy with Uncertainty: I know, I know – as high-achieving women, we love our plans and certainty. But magic happens in the unknown.
2. Journal Your Journey: Grab that pen and paper (yes, actual paper – there’s something magical about putting pen to paper that your phone just can’t replicate).
3. Try Something New Monthly: Whether it’s blowing bubbles on a walking trail (yes, I actually did this!) or taking a dance class, make a date with novelty.
4. Find Your Explorer Tribe: Surround yourself with people who get it, who cheer you on when you say, “I think I’ll try…”

Making It Real: Your Action Plan

Ready to dip your toes into exploration? Here’s how to start:

1. Choose one thing you’ve always been curious about but haven’t tried
2. Set a specific, achievable goal (think “take one dance class next week” rather than “become a dancer”)
3. Find an accountability partner or join a supportive community
4. Document your journey (remember that journal we talked about?)

The Beauty of “Failed” Experiments

Here’s something we need to talk about: not everything you try will stick – and that’s perfectly okay! As recovering perfectionists and high achievers, this can be tough to swallow. But here’s the truth: trying and deciding something isn’t for you isn’t failing – it’s data gathering for your next adventure.

Your Invitation to Explore

So, my dear friend, what’s calling to you? What little (or big) adventure has been whispering in your ear? Maybe it’s wearing more color, trying a new workout, or finally taking that cooking class. Whatever it is, know that you have permission to try, to wobble, to laugh, and yes – even to decide it’s not for you.

Remember: This journey of exploration isn’t about the destination – it’s about discovering who you become along the way. And from where I’m standing, that woman is absolutely magnificent.

What will you explore this month? Drop a comment below and let’s inspire each other to take that first step into something new!