The Midlife Edit: Letting Go and Making Room for the Life You Want

Feb 23, 2025 | The GreatBIG Life Cycle

Today, we’re diving into The Midlife Edit—a powerful process of reassessing and realigning your life with who you are now and where you’re headed.

What is The Midlife Edit?

Think about editing your closet—something I don’t particularly enjoy but have done a lot of lately. When I go through my clothes, I ask myself: Do I love this? Does this still fit who I am? If not, it’s time to let it go. The same concept applies to our lives. We accumulate things—jobs, relationships, habits, emotions—that once served us but may no longer align with our present or future selves.

Midlife is the perfect time to pause and ask yourself:

• What fits in my life right now?
• What doesn’t?
• What should I keep?
• What should I release?

Let’s explore three key areas of life that could use a midlife edit: Career, Relationships, and Emotional Baggage.

1. The Career Edit

Many women in midlife start questioning their careers. What once energized you might now drain you. And if you’ve spent years overachieving and overperforming, stepping back can feel unsettling. But here’s the truth: your job is not your career.

Questions to Consider:

• Does my work align with my current goals, values, and energy?
• Am I passionate about it—or am I just staying because it’s familiar and safe?
• Is my job fulfilling my financial needs while allowing space for things that bring me joy?

Editing your career doesn’t necessarily mean quitting. It could mean shifting your perspective, setting boundaries, or exploring side passions that bring you fulfillment outside of work.

2. The Relationship Edit

As we grow, our relationships must evolve too. The people who were once aligned with our past selves may not fit where we are today. And that’s okay.

Ask Yourself:

• Who uplifts and supports me?
• Who challenges me to grow?
• Who drains my energy or no longer aligns with my values?

Editing your relationships doesn’t mean cutting people off. Sometimes, it’s about redefining the role they play in your life, setting boundaries, or simply accepting that not every relationship is meant to last forever.

3. The Emotional Edit

If you’ve been around for 40+ years, you’ve collected emotional baggage—self-doubt, fear, anxiety, resentment. At some point, these emotions may have served a purpose, but are they still helping you? Or are they weighing you down?

Questions to Ask:

• What emotional patterns or beliefs are no longer serving me?
• Am I holding onto fear or resentment that I need to release?
• How can I create space for more joy, self-compassion, and confidence?

Letting go of outdated emotional baggage isn’t easy, but it’s necessary to move forward into the next version of yourself.

The Midlife Edit Framework

Whether you’re editing your closet, career, relationships, or emotions, use these four guiding questions:

1. What still fits? (Does this align with who I am today and where I’m going?)
2. What no longer fits? (Am I holding onto this out of habit, fear, or familiarity?)
3. What do I need to keep? (What truly supports my growth and happiness?)
4. What do I need to release? (What is holding me back?)

Embrace Your Next Chapter

This version of you cannot wear your old clothes, think your old thoughts, or cling to old habits. To step into your next chapter, you must release what no longer fits and make room for what’s ahead.

Let’s Connect!

I’d love to hear about your Midlife Edit! Share your experience in the comments. And don’t forget to like, subscribe, and stay tuned for our next video, where we’ll move from editing to exploring what’s next.

Until then, keep living your GreatBIG Life!

The Midlife Audit: Recognizing the Signs of Transition

Feb 23, 2025 | The GreatBIG Life Cycle

Let’s be real for a second—midlife can feel like one giant question mark. One day, you’re killing it in your career, handling your business like a pro, and the next, you’re staring at your life thinking, Wait… is this it?

If you’ve been feeling restless, uninspired, or even a little lost, you’re not alone. And no, you’re not crazy. You’re evolving.

See, midlife isn’t a crisis—it’s a transition. And like any major life shift, it comes with a whole lot of uncertainty, self-doubt, and let’s be honest, a few sleepless nights spent overthinking everything.

Why You Feel Stuck (And Why It’s Actually a Good Sign)

You’re used to making moves, checking off goals, and handling business like a boss. But now? That drive you once had feels… different. The things that used to excite you don’t hit the same. You’ve outgrown certain spaces, routines, and maybe even relationships.

That’s not failure. That’s growth.

The problem? When high-achieving women like us feel this shift, we tend to do one of two things:

1. Push through it—forcing ourselves to keep grinding, even when it feels misaligned.
2. Freeze up—waiting for clarity before taking any action.

But here’s the truth: clarity comes from movement, not marinating in indecision.

How to Get Unstuck and Step Into Your Next Chapter

If you’re nodding along thinking, Okay, Neca, but how do I actually move forward?, I got you. Here’s where to start:

1. Stop Chasing Your Old Self

The woman you were five or ten years ago isn’t the woman you are now. And that’s a good thing. Instead of trying to recreate past success or passion, ask yourself: What excites me now? Even if it’s something completely new, follow that spark.

2. Do a Midlife Audit

What’s working in your life? What’s draining you? Take inventory of everything—your career, relationships, daily habits. If it’s not adding to your life, it’s subtracting from it.

(Need help with this? Check out my video above on the Midlife Audit for a step-by-step guide.)

3. Give Yourself Permission to Pivot

You don’t need a 5-year plan to make a move. Sometimes, the next step is simply exploring something new. Take a class, switch up your routine, or say yes to an opportunity that feels right—even if it scares you a little.

4. Get Clear on What You Actually Want

Not what society says you should want. Not what your younger self planned. What do you want now? If you’re unsure, that’s okay. Start by noticing what excites you, what drains you, and what you wish you had more of in your life.

5. Invest in Guidance & Support

You don’t have to figure this all out alone. This is the time to find a coach or therapist that can help you naviagate this critical period of your life. Trust me, you will not regret it!

You’re Not Stuck. You’re in Transition.

This season of life isn’t about “fixing” yourself—it’s about realigning with who you’re becoming. And trust me, she’s powerful, wise, and ready for her next chapter.

So, tell me—what’s one thing you’re feeling called to explore right now? Drop a comment below. Let’s talk about it.