Hey there, my friend! Let’s have a heart-to-heart about something that’s been on my mind lately – the beautiful art of exploration in midlife. You know that feeling when you’re standing at the edge of something new, heart fluttering with both excitement and nervousness? That’s exactly where we’re headed today.
The Permission Slip You’ve Been Waiting For
Remember when we were kids, and we needed a permission slip to go on adventures? Well, consider this your official midlife permission slip to explore, experiment, and yes – even fail gloriously! As someone who’s navigated these waters (and sometimes felt like I was swimming upstream), I can tell you that exploration isn’t just fun – it’s essential for our growth.
Why Exploration Matters Now More Than Ever
Let me share a little story that might resonate with you. Recently, I witnessed a beautiful moment of transformation when a friend of mine – let’s call her Denise – decided to try roller skating at 53. Not just any skating, mind you, but full-on, bought-her-own-skates commitment. Was she wobbly at first? Absolutely. Did it matter? Not one bit. Because what she gained wasn’t just a new hobby – it was a renewed sense of possibility.
The Art of Living the Question
You know what my therapist once shared with me? A beautiful quote from Rainer Maria Rilke: “Live the question.” Not rush to answer it, not solve it immediately, but live it. How often do we deny ourselves experiences because we’re too busy trying to know the outcome?
Your Exploration Toolkit
Here’s what I want you to consider (and yes, I’m speaking from experience here):
- Get Cozy with Uncertainty: I know, I know – as high-achieving women, we love our plans and certainty. But magic happens in the unknown.
- Journal Your Journey: Grab that pen and paper (yes, actual paper – there’s something magical about putting pen to paper that your phone just can’t replicate).
- Try Something New Monthly: Whether it’s blowing bubbles on a walking trail (yes, I actually did this!) or taking a dance class, make a date with novelty.
- Find Your Explorer Tribe: Surround yourself with people who get it, who cheer you on when you say, “I think I’ll try…”
Making It Real: Your Action Plan
Ready to dip your toes into exploration? Here’s how to start:
- Choose one thing you’ve always been curious about but haven’t tried
- Set a specific, achievable goal (think “take one dance class next week” rather than “become a dancer”)
- Find an accountability partner or join a supportive community
- Document your journey (remember that journal we talked about?)
The Beauty of “Failed” Experiments
Here’s something we need to talk about: not everything you try will stick – and that’s perfectly okay! As recovering perfectionists and high achievers, this can be tough to swallow. But here’s the truth: trying and deciding something isn’t for you isn’t failing – it’s data gathering for your next adventure.
Your Invitation to Explore
So, my dear friend, what’s calling to you? What little (or big) adventure has been whispering in your ear? Maybe it’s wearing more color, trying a new workout, or finally taking that cooking class. Whatever it is, know that you have permission to try, to wobble, to laugh, and yes – even to decide it’s not for you.
Remember: This journey of exploration isn’t about the destination – it’s about discovering who you become along the way. And from where I’m standing, that woman is absolutely magnificent.
What will you explore this month? Drop a comment below and let’s inspire each other to take that first step into something new!
